Straightaway or Detour?

People live by “What If” – I can see why. What If’s provide a sense of safety, a sense of open-mindedness. But they make life so much more dull.
“What if someone hurts you?” – would you still do it?
“What if something wrong happened?” – would you still do it?
“What if this outcome turns out wrong?” – would you still do it?

“What if the glass is half full?” – would you believe them? They doubt themselves.
“What if this outcome does turn out positively?” – It’s a trick.

Dont buy “What If”s. They do nothing but hinder.

They leave their mark though, no doubt. Sometimes they “prove” to be true. Hard to deny reality, right? What if your what if came true? There’s a what if. Did it actually come true? What if it did? (Do I sound intelligent yet? I’m repeating myself and making you think)

What If, I believe, was NOT made to make you think. So many people live life so sheltered, because they’re scared of “what if [this happens]?”
As DirecTV says, “Don’t be that guy” – (yet its for a different reason, and completely unrelated to this topic)

Life is too short to What If yourself. Life is meant to take risks, as well as it is not to take risks. Life is simply picking and choosing your battles. Not doubting the outcome of the path you chose to take.
You ever hear of the fact your thoughts determine the outcome? As possibly, many of you can speculate, and most surely will because you just found fault in what I just said (which doesn’t make you a scholar – get over it) some things are just destined.
But destiny and a chosen path are two different things (thats your smack for fault)
You choose a path. You think negatively. The outcome could be more negative than positive, correct? (dont ask it the other way. I said “could”)
You think positively, thats could make a positive outcome!
With negativity comes more negativity. As positivity brings positivity!

What If is a sign of negativity. Yet its inevitable. Even I, who speaks against it, will most likely say “What If” – Yet I dont live by What If. Life’s not meant for that.
You choose a path, or hear of someones choice, and question What If, you do it out of impulse! Out of fear!
Fear is healthy, no doubt. But constant fear over What If is not.

Flip a coin. What if its heads? What if its tails? Will a life be taken, or saved? (Sorry, this isn’t Batman, I forgot)

Life is luck and miracles. Life isn’t a What If game. God is here. Destiny will come. You choose the positive side of What If, and it saves your life. Your life will be taken. It’s destiny.

Don’t question life. Dont fill others heads with your nonsense What Ifs.

Life is with God, destiny is in life. Make a choice and dont question it. At least try not to (this will prove harder than it sounds)

I’m no genius. I’m no scholar. I’m no philosophical teacher. I’m alive. I’m not a What If-er.
If you are… I’m sorry. That must suck.
Take risks every now and then. Just try it.
Unless its a negative risk. Be smart.
Not stupid. Stay off of What If.

Problems – Life’s full of them. But some are easier to deal with than others. Some you can deal with yourself, some you can’t.
There’s no such thing as an easy life. A “problem-free” life.

Bullying – A big reason for suicides. We don’t realize how much we hurt others with what we say and/or do. Our tongue is sharper than any weapon physically used.

Cliques – Another big reason for outcasts, and suicides. Some aren’t “good enough”. You can deny the existence of cliques, or say you’re not in one… but you are. Everyone is.

A smile isn’t always a smile. When someone says they’re good, they’re not always good. For some, the word “good” tears them apart from this world. Makes them alone, separates them from genuine smiles.
Bullying will never end. There will always be those who need to call attention to themselves. But it’s up to everyone surrounding to stop it when you see it. Never think that just after you stopped the bullying, the problems ends there. No, words can penetrate into the deepest consciousness of our minds and hearts and terrorize and haunt us.

We can never be satisfied with “Enough”. We must long for more than saying “Stop”. Hearts can be healed by the act of kindness, like reaching out. Learn who they are.

Cliques are pointless! We cast others out, because they stink, or don’t wear name-brand clothes. Maybe their shoes have dirt on them. Or they read, or don’t read. Maybe they’re high-class, maybe they’re white trash. But if everyone was naked and clean, or naked and dirty, what’s the difference between them and you?
On the inside we’re all the same, and the inside is the only part that matters.

Now, think. Are you willing to put up with ignorance? Are you willing to never know what people are going through? Reaching out to hearts may be awkward, sometimes hard, but it’s always worth it. There are those that are just dying to be reached out to – but you never take the hand.
Recognize and “smile” from a smile. Ask how someone’s doing – and ask again.
Be ready for heart-to-heart conversations.
Talk to people you know, and don’t know.
Don’t make any more outcasts, and don’t leave anyone point-blank alone with their emotions all alone.
And finally, remember – you’re never alone. There will always be people who care for and about you. Never go through life alone, because if we were meant for that, there wouldn’t be other humans.

Love the hated, and love the loved.
Love yourself, and love everyone.

In a world where society doesn’t control our every thought, there’s beauty lurking in the “average” women.
In a world where society doesn’t make it’s stance in our hearts, there’s strength in every weak man.

Society makes its judgmental presence known in the hearts and minds of every man, woman, and young boy and girl. Through Radio, TV, Advertisements, Billboards, the Internet, and even Books, there is society telling US, the one’s who CREATED this society, what a “beautiful” woman is. Thin, sleek, tan, long legs, make-up, round breasts – Those are just some of the things society fills our heads with.
Men are to be strong, emotionless, sex-driven animals.
Young children are to start dressing immodestly, bullying others because they’re not “mainstream”.
It’s said teenage years are the rough years, but if you look at the world around you, and not at just one specific age group, you’ll see the torment and torture teenagers and children rip upon others is also shared through what we see! Monkey see, monkey do! Where do we learn these foul actions?
TV? Check.
Internet? Check.
Family? Check, even!
Friends? Check.
Society? Big, fat, CHECK.

Who created this society we live in? Who created the false image of beauty? Who created this false image of strength?
We did, we did, and we did.
How many of us know they’re all lies?
How many of us actually know beauty in a woman doesn’t shine through a busty blonde with long, seductive legs in a bikini?
How many of us know strength in a man doesn’t show through ripped muscles, glistening because the steroids are over-working their bodies?
How many of us know children shouldn’t be making fun of one another because their shoes are dirty, or they haven’t showered in a couple days because they’re KIDS?

And yet, how many of us blame one another for the problems in this world and our society when we, ourselves, are going out in bikini’s, showing off almost every inch of our almost-naked body? or being strong so our guys friends won’t make fun of us? Since when has it become a crime for men to cry?

NOTE — Real men DO cry — NOTE

Society. How jacked up nowadays. All thanks to every one of us, and our false views on what beauty, or strength is.

Beauty in a woman is being happy and content with the way they look – not always trying to improve themselves. They have a handful of love-handles? Beautiful. They have no make-up? Gorgeous.
Beauty isn’t through artificial cover-ups. REAL beauty is showing the world what God gave you and made you! Natural beauty is the best beauty! (While being modest, of course. Not flaunting your ass and boobs around like some horny circus animal)

Strength in a man is the ability to cry when your emotions are a wreck. If you’re a man, you have feelings. If your friends make fun of you for it, who can call them friends? Friends are the ones who appreciate who you are and love your heart. Strength is being able to rise up to the occasion. If you have a family, strength is what keeps you going day and night to provide your family a place to live and food to eat! Strength is the ability to make it through every day!

Don’t let society lie to you about how you should look, or how you should feel – if at all.
You’re your own person.
Use your strength and rise to this occasion.
Strike down the lies society feeds to us!
These feelings you feel of not being good enough, if you do nothing about it, your kids will feel the same way!
Change starts here. Change starts now.

How many times have you heard “We’re here to help” or something along those lines, and right as you can see the end of the tunnel, they pull the rug out right from underneath your fragile feet?
Usually there would be somewhere to fall, something to fall on, but at that point, you feel like you’re just spiraling down into what’s called “The Abyss” (call it what you will)

What a common occurrence! Life is working out, life is going great. You have epiphanies about your personal life and yourself, and the ones that are in your life, then BAM. Just like that, everything you were starting to see goes black, you stray from the path you were on because it feels like you failed at life. I mean, you’ve done everything you can, and yet, you don’t get what you were going at, so how can you not feel like a failure?

Your friends then notice a change in you, and they don’t like it. They may deny that fact or accept, but either way, they’re just as human as you are, which means they like things and dislike things. You may lose friends, you may gain them back, but the point is, it changes you. It’s a noticeable change.

How common is it to lose sight of things that are important? Your life is the most important possession you have, and, LOOK! YOU FELL!! What in the world could that mean? Are you not good enough to do things on your own? Apparently not! You failed!

But that’s wrong. Life sucks, and will always suck. But the good thing is, there’s a light at every tunnel – even down a branched tunnel that you weren’t planning on taking. Sure it’s not as a direct route as the one you were on, thus it will take longer, but at least you get to the end.
When life sucker-punches you, you can either lie down and take it, curled up in the fetal position, or you can stand right back up, and punch it back.
It’s your choice.
You can accept the failure, or dismiss it as a detour.